I just heard this on the news and wondered what everyone thinks.  I know what I think...

A 16 year old girl sent a naked picture of herself to her 18 year old boyfriend via text message.  They call it "sexting".
They had a fight or broke up, not sure which, and he retaliated by sending the picture to her parents and grandparents. Ok, that's not cool, however, he has been charged as a sex offender and must register as such for 25 years.
This means he can't be caught near a school, he must include this info on job applications, and, basically, his life is ruined.

He was stupid, yeah.  So was the girl.  But does his punishment fit the crime?


Comments

  • Hegemone said Mar 13, 2009...
    Personally, in a way it does fit because there is no way an 18 year old didn't know that it is technically illegal to get involved with somebody younger than his own age, since he is a legal adult now.  However, they were pretty close in age, so its not as if he was preying on some innocent girl anyway, they DATED, that sort of stuff happens, that's why we now have mandatory sex education and government programs to enable people to get STD tested, naughty bit inspections of other kinds and discounted or free birth control methods.  I'd say that's a pretty rough rap, but hopefully he'll have learned his lesson now that if he had just left it go and not sent that inappropriate photo out, he wouldn't be in this world of trouble.  Hopefully she also fully realizes the guilt of what she has done to his life, for sending him that photo in the first place.  Also, he should have deleted the photo, if not recently after receiving it, than surely when they broke up.  She should never put herself in compromising photos like that.  He's going to have a hard life, I hope he's ready for it, but I will say, that for this particular scenario, I don't know that 25 years is appropriate.  That's going to eat up the better part of his life, where yes, everybody might state that they have to be nondiscriminatory, but that doesn't mean they are.
  • uniquely-ironic said Mar 13, 2009...
    I don't think that the sentence is appropriate, though I do think some sort of punishment is called for.  Sure, sending the photo was stupid, but the girl is 16 and we have to expect that she is not a mature adult that thinks things through.  At 18 though, he should have known better than to forward them to her family.  If he wanted a reaction, he got it.  It's unfortunate, but maybe this will send a message to all people who either send or resend nekkid pics around.
  • Expendable said Mar 13, 2009...
    She's lucky she wasn't charged for sending it in the first place. But yeah, love makes you stupid.
  • fragglesrock said Mar 13, 2009...
    i don't know, i don't really agree with the punishment.  i've heard about this sexting and i just groaned, what next? BUT...is it his fault that she sent him a naked pic? nope.  yes he should have not been involved in the first place, and should have deleted picture, but come on, it's not like the 18 year old sent HER a naked pic...however, i WILL be sure to read this story to my 13 year old son just to cement the fear of this 'sexting' phenom.
  • kruuyai said Mar 13, 2009...
    No, the punishment is not just.  Like others said, she sent it to him.  And it's not like he posted it on the internet for profit or otherwise.  He sent it to her parents.  I realize his motive was revenge, but the result is that her parents know what she's up to and can take appropriate action to correct her.  As far as his age is concerned, this is likely one of those cases where the two got involved before he turned 18.  That kind of stuff is causing problems all over the place.
  • mobil said Mar 13, 2009...
    No, they should both get severe spankings, the girl from a group of bull dike lesibans and the boy from Dad's with 16 year old daughters.
  • husbandhater said Mar 13, 2009...
    Here lies the quandry of a catch 22. See in a technical sense this is child porn b/c she is a minor. And he transmitted this through technical means. So in that sense of the crime he is guilty. He was stupid. But in light of the situation being an intimate one perhaps they should have modified his punishment. If he only transmitted to her family then he should have gotten sometime in jail with/or probation. To brand him a sex offender at 18 might be a bit harsh and such a permanent thing with lasting effects on his young life. But then again he dated a 16yrold. Confusing isn't it.
  • superbozo said Mar 13, 2009...
    I agree he should be punished. But to be branded a sex offender. I do not think that fits the profile of what I consider a sex offender to be. These days it's not unusual to see teenage girls with older young men 18 - 20. Across the road my neighbours have a 15 year old daughter who is dating a 19 year old. With her parents full approval I might add (thats a different discussion altogether)    It would seem in this case that as he had the girls parents number that he might well of known her parents. Maybe even visited her at her parents house while they were dating. (I do not know the details) if thats the case labelling him a sex offender just doesn't seem right.
  • Me-Myself&I said Mar 13, 2009...
    no i don't think the punishment fits the crime in this case. too harsh for sure. one moment of being stupid shouldn't ruin his future. but it does work that way. it's too bad his revenge bit him back in the ass. they both need spankings as mobil said! 
  • hotaka said Mar 14, 2009...
    Sounds to me like a lovers' quarrel that just got out of hand. If she wanted to send him the naked picture in the first place that is not his fault. How did he get the address to all her family members? Well, at least he kept it in the family. What if he had sold it to a porn site? I don't think the punishment fits the crime at all. This was blown way out of proportion. She is 16, he is 18. That's not unusual nor is it illegal. They are both of age. If he was 18 and he took pictures of an under-aged girl and distributed them I think we'd have an issue. This is just a teenage romance on the rocks. He did, as I said, keep it in the family. That was pretty harmless. He just wanted to embarrass her to her family. Now that it is on the news it is a big embarrassment to everyone. Way to go all!
  • Twylarants said Mar 14, 2009...
    I just heard a little more of the story.  Yesterday, the news said he sent the picture to her family, but today a lawyer who prosecutes these types of cases said he broadcasted it to the world, so I don't know what the truth is...she may have been talking about other cases in which pictures were sent to friends or posted on the net, I'm not sure.But, still, the boy was kicked out of college, lost his job, got 5 years probation in addition to the sex offender label which places him in the category with horrible people who molest children, and he had to move from his home because it's close to a school.As a mother of boys, who we all know can be notoriously stupid no matter how old they are, I feel sorry for the kid.  He was interviewed this morning on Fox, and he's a pimply-faced, goofy looking kid who needs a haircut.The lawyer admitted that the law needs tweaking and there should be a middle ground for cases like this, but, as it stands, the kid has no recourse.Stupid kids.
  • mobil said Mar 14, 2009...
    No, stupid laws! In cases like this there should be some wiggle room.
  • Twylarants said Mar 15, 2009...
    321 views?  Guess the title was more titillating than the content.
  • COMMON_SENSE said Sep 29, 2009...
    Let see they both were dating each other, yes there only 2 years between them. She 16 got a mind of her own she knew what she was doing. He is 18 and upset and did sent the pic to parents to show what she was doing probably. Also we all basis our conclusions on the media, media doesn't lie now does it bull shit. If there only 2 years between you and you been dating awhile. Then the fear factor society with over the top laws. Common sense is what needed in case like this not probation or some crack pot sex offender label. As they both similar ages and conscented to be together, it not like he was stalking her and all that. She wanted to be with him. If they were like 10 years older than each other you could say fair enough. if he was 18 and the girl was 12 you would have case. But when you 16 and you can work, you old enough to do praticulury anything. Also if you old enough to be sent to war at 16 then why is it criminal act to have sex 16, when you can be killed in war. So war is less than sex then is it. This guy not sex offender he did the right thing to show the parents what the girls does. Other wise she might get the next person in trouble if that was the intentions.
  • Twylarants said Sep 29, 2009...
    Common Sense, you've got a lot of common sense!
  • Goodguy said Apr 23, 2011...
    Yes it does but the girl should have had her ass beat but nowone can do that anymore soyea

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